Striving for Success
Alex (Qrius)My goal is to continue to be the best I can be as well as expand on what I can be.
It sounds hopeful but naive; there is no way to measure what I can be or if I am applying the most I can, so it seems arbitrary...thus empty! Meaningless! And as true as this is, I challenge your interpretation of that statement. I present to you the nuance of that statement, which is that, I can feel if I am applying my everything. I can have a good idea of what I can be. Now, this is important! Write this down! My goal quote is also a statement of trust in my self understanding. My self understanding is not something that I have had trust in for most of my life. Instead, it is something that I have cultivated through years of confronting my own inadequecies and mistakes with a critical but realistic lense. And it would not be possible without the people who I choose to surround myself with.
My friends tend to be those that are very open to giving their own opinions even to my own emotional effect. Now, you are probably rolling your eyes since it is really easy to say that but again, I challenge your interpretation. Though it might take its own dedicated blog post, through my own effort in being realistic and critical of myself while also committing to the acceptance of criticism on my side with a "Thank you" whenever its given to me. I try to never respond to criticisms with malice or spite. Now, I am only human and emotions may get the better of me at times but as soon as I feel any clarity, I make it my mission to express my gratitude for any criticisms. This is obviously very nuanced but the main point is that it takes more than me to find trust in my own world view. And, it takes constant humility and dedication to open oneself up to criticism and extract growth from these sometimes hurtful nuggets of growth.
Something that I have concluded recently is that my perpetual growth is made much easier when other perspectives are added in the mix. I am a flawed human being, as we all are. But together, we have so much knowledge, we have so many experiences, and we have so many skills. Why wouldn't including others help? My friends are diverse in every way that you can think of. With such a diverse group of friends that are open to being blunt, alongside my dedication to growth and fairly challenging my own beliefs, I can stand confident that I am very aware of the biases that I can apply to my own beliefs that could inhibit me from finding truth.
And with this confidence in knowledge of my own biases, along with my understanding of self, with the perspectives of others, I can be confident that my Self Understanding is, at least, close to accurate and from there, I can measure success within my goal! Did you forget the point? Because, I kind of did. Anyway, in pursuit of getting the confidence to measure my self understanding, it also requires me to apply my goal. It is recursive...in a way. Which is cool.
So, through the many future updates of this site, I hope to present my journey of success with this goal. Hopefully, others can find value in this because I really think its effective for someone with a desire to continue to grow. I also have many examples of things to do to to make the lifestyle easier to follow. This lifestyle is not a walk in the park. Sometimes I have to come to terms with things I do not want to think about, but always remember "You grow the most after the hard times".
Godspeed
- Qrius